it is not my job as Derek and Charlee's mom to tell them what to think and how to feel. My job is to PROVIDE for them and keep them SAFE. Not only must I provide food and shelter, but I also must provide them with the opportunity to speak their mind. I must allow them to feel safe when sharing their feelings. And by opportunity, I mean actually listening to them when they have something to say, even if it is NOT important to ME in that particular moment. I am in no way sayin